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Re: If you are Single and Searching... Click by AngelPrisi(f) : 7:38 pm On May 21

My name is Priscilla , I am 18 and I love this Forum.....Not searching though just wanna make friends grin grin grin grin

Guys Listen: Doing Just This One Thing Makes You Better at S*x by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:37 am On Jul 12

You can be the champion in bed if you really want to. Read to know one very important trick that most people don't know.

According to a recent report by Dailystar, there’s only one real way you can improve your bedroom skills. A sexpert say to make sure you’re not being “dumb at s*x” all you need to do is pay attention to your partner.

Nicole Prause, who works as a principal investigator at the Sexual Psychophysiology and Affective Neuroscience Lab at the University of California, explained:

“There’s no such thing as someone who is ‘good at s*x’."

She continued: “It completely depends on your partner.

“For example, if you’re someone who loves to be pooped on, I’m never going to be a good partner for you.

“That’s just not in my repertoire.”

So aside from knowing the basic fundamentals of what goes where, the one thing you should be doing is listening to your lover.

Getting to know their body as well as sexual turn ons and tastes will enhance their pleasure between the sheets – ultimately making you look like a better lover.

And previous research backs up Nicole’s advice.

According to a study published in the American Sociological Review, the more times women had s*x with a partner the more likely they were to orgasm whether it was in a long-term relationship or as a casual hook-up.

Also the ladies’ sexual enjoyment “dramatically” increased after the first romp, meaning that “partner-specific learning” is key to boosting satisfaction in the sack.

But don’t just keep communication down to grunts and moans because it’s possible that your partner won’t really know what they mean.

Nicole told Science of Us: “If you like something they’re doing, say: ‘I like that.’

“Use your words.

"If you can be more specific about what you like about it, do."

She added: “Don’t drop the big bomb first time.

“If you really like being choked with a rope, that’s kind of dangerous.

"Maybe don’t start with that, but talk about it eventually.

"Start with something more common as a way of building trust.”

PHOTOS: Tiwa Savage Looks So S*xy and Very Hot by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:43 am On Jul 12

These new set of photos released by Nigerian singer, Tiwa Savage are really hot and s*xy.
Nigerian singer and mother-of-one, Tiwa Savage is not leaving anything to chance as she kills it with these s*xy looking and gorgeous set of photos. She's really looks hot as the dress compliments her rich skin.

Unstoppable! 'Naija Badt Girl' Releases Naughty Bedroom pics on Social Media by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:46 am On Jul 12

If you are of the opinion that she is going to change her ways for the better soonest, then you must be prepared for a quick rethink because the Maheeda we know is unstoppable and rigid about her antics on social media.


Self-aclaimed n*dist and 'Naija badt girl' popularly known as Maheeda has released who unapologetic short videos of herself appearing half-unclad in her private bedroom seductively swaying to a Nigerian song by rapper Olamide titled "Who You Epp"

One of the videos was rudely captioned;

"Stf and watch!! Who u eephuh Na only mouth u get!!! Your mate they build house for village me I build for abroad ... My friend at least eep your life!!"

This seems to be a direct jab at several followers who have been criticizing her p*rnographic activities on Instagram.

Guys, Do You Want Great S*x Tonight With Your Woman? by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:48 am On Jul 12

If you have been having a tough time pleasing your woman in bed these days, then this is for you to read.

If you want great s*x tonight, take your lady for a sumptuous dinner. No, not to set her mood right but to stave off her hunger pangs first, a small yet interesting study has revealed.

According to researchers from University of California-San Diego, women with full stomachs are more likely to respond to romantic arousal than women with empty stomachs.

“What [the study] does suggest is that our brains respond to different rewards with similar circuitry, and that they interact with each other,” postdoctoral researcher Alice Ely told Mic.com.

“One class of rewards (food, s*x, money) potentially could make other classes of rewards more exciting or pleasant,” she was quoted as saying.

To reach this conclusion, Ely asked 20 women to fast for eight hours.

After eight hours, they were then showed a series of “neutral” images and romantically-themed images and were placed under brain scans.

Later, the women were given a 500-calorie nutrition supplement drink and were shown the same images again.

Ely and colleagues found the satiated women were “more responsive to romantic cues” than they were before they ate.

“Physical discomfort is pretty incompatible with desire,” she noted.

"After not eating for a long time, we feel uncomfortable and when we overeat, we are uncomfortable. Find the middle ground,” Ely told Mic.com.

The study appeared in the journal Appetite.

Photo: Why We Do s*x Business--Prostitutes by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:51 am On Jul 12

Many people do not intentionally go into prostitution. This is the real reasons why many people have ventured into the illicit business.

According to this report by Dailystar, many people are curious about the lives of s*x workers and the reasons behind their unusual career choice.

While little is known about the mysterious industry one study, published in Acta Psychiatrica Scandinavica, delved into the lives of 193 female s*x workers in Switzerland – where prostitution is legal.

The majority of the ladies surveyed worked for a studio, brothel or escort service but a quarter of them solicited clients on the street. Researchers found a range of motivations that led the women to sell their bodies, but interestingly the top reason was because they genuinely liked the job.

Around 37% of the Swiss ladies admitted they enjoyed trading sexual favours for cash.

However the second most popular reason was because they couldn’t find another job, with 28% of the women confessing that’s what drove them to s*x work.

Financial struggles were also a main factor as ladies listed needing to support their family (26%), pay debts (24%), put themselves through education (8%) or, worryingly, buy drugs (22%) as motives.

Some women (4%) had been deceived about the kind of work they were supposed to do, particularly if they had moved to Switzerland from abroad.

Just 5% said they did it to help a partner and 1% revealed they were forced into it – which may be a small percentage but it’s still concerning.

Re: My Ladies Please Come In, I Have Vital Info For You All by AngelPrisi(f) : 1:03 pm On Jul 24

Thank you so much for sharing this....May God bless you, Teekay

Omg! See Pictures of Mosque Built by Igbo Muslims in Owerri by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:34 pm On Jul 31

Some Igbo men who are adherents of Islam have built a befitting Central Mosque, located around Onitsha road in Owerri, Imo state.

Here are pictures of the mosque as released by the group on their Facebook wall.

Breaking News: Nigerian Army and Militants Clash in Heavy Fighting (Photos+Video) by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:40 pm On Jul 31

It is a serious battle between the Nigerian Army and militants in Ibafo and Arepo areas of Ogun State terrorizing residents of the state.

Nigerian Military entering Arepo and Ibafo in Ogun State to confront militants

The Nigerian Army have stormed Arepo and Ibafo communities in Ogun and Lagos State to confront militants terrorizing residents in the area.

According to a Punch report, there was a serious exchange of gunfire between militants and military men inside the creek, people were advised to stay indoors as the militant now hide inside people’s compound to escape the military men.

The military came prepared, even with a helicopter to fish out the criminals.

See How Fayose and Obanikoro 'Stole' 1.2bn Naira - Witness by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:49 pm On Jul 31

The unending revelations trailing the N1.2billion election fraud money involving the fugitive, Musiliu Obanikoro, a former Defence Minister of State and the Ekiti State embattled Governor, Ayodele Fayose continues as one Damola Otuyalo, the Head of Cash-In-Trust Service of Diamond Bank has also rolled out his role in the alleged fraudulent practice.

Revelations coming from a witness in the alleged diversion of that sum by former Minister of State for Defence, Senator Musiliu Obanikoro, to Governor Ayodele Fayose of Ekiti State for the prosecution of the 2014 governor election in the state, said it took ten hours, and two aircraft over three flights, The Nation Newspaper reports this morning

Imagine what effort goes into loading 65 bags containing N1.2billion raw cash into a plane, our Source wonders

Head of Cash-In-Trust Service of Diamond Bank, Damola Otuyalo, said in a statement of oath to the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission ( EFCC) that the money was first taken to the Ikeja Airport at dawn in 65 bags before being dispatched to Ekiti State via the Akure airport.

It was also gathered that the cash, which was originally released for six beneficiaries – Santuraki Bello (N200m); Yusuf Bulama (N120m); Chimenum Njoku (N250m); Josiah Moses (N280m); Abubakar Sadiq Zanna (N200m); and Franklin Tolani (N150m)- was diverted to Fayose by Obanikoro under the pretence that the six persons could not be located.

Otuyalo, in his oath, said:”On the N1.2billion, my director, Mr. Premier Oiwoh informed me about the payment on the 10th of June 2014. Cash was gathered together on the 17th of June and was taken to the location where I was told to take it to.

“The location was the private wing of the Lagos Airport and date was on the 17th of June 2014.

“We got to the private wing before 7am in the morning and left the airport at 4pm in the afternoon. The cash was bagged in cash bags totaling about 65 and everything was offloaded from the bullion van.

“What I mean by cash was gathered was that as part of routine of the unit, we normally evacuate branches that have excess cash and either move it to branches with low cash or move it to CBN or swap with other banks.

“The instruction, dated 16th of June 2014 was given to me where six beneficiaries were to be paid.

“The names of the beneficiaries were Santuraki Bello (N200m); Yusuf Bulama (N120m); Chimenum Njoku (N250m); Josiah Moses (N280m); Abubakar Sadiq Zanna (N200m); and Franklin Tolani (N150m).

“The above-named beneficiaries were not available to be paid as I did not see them. I was further directed by Mr. Premier Oiwoh to move the money to the airport where I will be given further instruction on who to pay.

“The cash was moved to the airport through the Cash-In-Transit vendor, Benters Warehouse Limited (BWL). I contacted the vendor, who made the bullion vehicle available for the movement.

“I personally supervised the loading of the money into the bullion van and escorted the money to the airport. I was in my vehicle while the bullion van was also escorted by the police.

“As at the time I left the banking premises, I did not sight the beneficiaries.”

Otuyalo confirmed an earlier report by The Nation that they were disallowed access to the security gate at the reserved wing at the airport.

He, however, said Gbolahan Obanikoro, son of the ex-Minister, cleared them at the airport gate.

The banker added:”When we got to the gate, we were not allowed in as we did not have any pass. However, Gbolahan Obanikoro came, he cleared us and we moved in.

“I identified Gbolahan Obanikoro while my boss, Premier Oiwoh, called me on the phone that Gbolahan was around. He spoke to Gbolahan through my phone and the phone was also handed back to me where it was confirmed that that was the beneficiary to pay the money to.

“Besides this, politicians are really not hidden from the public. So, I was also able to recognise him apart from my boss’s confirmation.

“When we eventually gained entrance into the private wing, Mr. Musiliu Obanikoro came in with two armed policemen and a few friends and cash was offloaded into the first aircraft which flew him out of the airport.

“The aircraft later came back and the second batch of money was also offloaded into the aircraft from the bullion van.

“As the second aircraft could not also contain the remaining amount due to the size of the aircraft and weight it can carry.

“I recall that another aircraft was also used to move the final batch of the money from the bullion van.

“The second and third movements were supervised by Gbolahan Obanikoro as his father had left with the first aircraft.

“I got back to my boss, Premier Oiwoh, that the assignment was concluded and he said okay.”

TOP SECRET: See How Atiku, Mimiko are Plotting Buhari's Fall Ahead 2019 by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:54 pm On Jul 31

Apparently dissatisfied with the suppressed musings in the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC) and the perennial crisis in the opposition Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), key figures in both parties are mulling what a source called ‘a strong third force’.

If ongoing secret consultations are fruitful, the third force is a new political party ahead of the 2019 presidential election that would witness the pairing of former Vice President, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar, and the incumbent governor of Ondo State, Dr. Olusegun Mimiko, as presidential candidate and running mate respectively, Sunday Telegraph gathered. Curiously, while Atiku, with eyes glued to the presidency, belongs to the APC, the Ondo State governor is of the PDP and indeed, a key figure in the resolution of the crisis in the opposition party.

Mimiko’s tenure will lapse in February 2017. According to a highly placed source, the new party will emerge in the last quarter of 2017, even as a positive outcome (for the PDP) of the November 2016 governorship election in Ondo State is the likely template for the permutation.

The SDP, Falae/Afenifere link

As part of the plan, a meeting between the former vice president and former presidential candidate and national chairman of the Social Democratic Party (SDP), Chief Olu Falae, might hold in a couple of weeks, barring the unforeseen.

The source said the SDP is one of the options being stratified by the duo of Atiku and Mimiko, if the idea of a fresh political party appears cumbersome. Falae, an Afenifere chieftain from Ondo State and political benefactor of the governor, is expected to mobilize the pan Yoruba organisation across the South-West as a ‘counter force to the existing power equation in the region’.

The source said, ‘’Like a nation in want of leadership, proper leadership and a new dawn will soon face the country because what Nigerians are getting is not what they bargained for. The change Atiku, Mimiko meetingmantra appears to be fading and some persons are beginning to think otherwise.

TOP SECRET: Atiku, Mimiko Plot New Party, Joint Presidential Ticket Ahead 2019
‘’As it was in the run up to the last presidential election, whereby hitherto antagonistic persons came together for a common cause and installed the current government, we are looking at the possibility of mobilizing all and sundry to rescue the nation from nepotisim.

‘’From all indications, the current leadership has failed the nation and if you read what a North West leader said in an interview today (yesterday), you need no one to tell you that we require a drastic political direction.

‘’In the process, anything can happen, including the registration of a new political party or reviving an existing one because in all the major parties, that is PDP and APC, there are problems.

‘’So we are going to reach out to our major political bloc, the Afenifere, as well as some of the Third Republic SDP governors who are now sidelined in the two parties.” Asked about the possibility of a new party flourishing in the South West, when the current vice president hails from there, the source said it was immaterial.

‘’That is immaterial. As far as some of us are concerned, whether he is VP or not, Osinbajo does not have the political sagacity of the Ondo State governor. I ask, can a Buhari or whoever and Osinbajo APC ticket beat an Atiku/ Mimiko ticket?

‘’They can longer deceive our people because the truth has come out. They shouted restructuring before election and abandoned it after their victory. Are these people trustworthy? Definitely, a counter force to the existing power equation in the region is about to be reinvigorated’’, the source said.

..Any role for Kuku as Ondo guber race test-runs plot ?

Sunday Telegraph gathered that as a possible inroad and sustenability in the South West, the former vice president was partly instrumental to the choice of the immediate past Ondo State Attorney General and Commissioner for Justice, Mr. Eyitayo Jegede, as Governor Mimiko’s preferred candidate of the PDP for the November governorship election. Atiku and Jegede are friends, the latter having resided in Yola, the Adamawa State capital, for almost two decades and has been a personal friend and counsel to the former vice president.

The opposition from a section of the party’s leadership notwithstanding, Jegede looks good to emerge as the PDP candidate and he’s reportedly groomed to prepare grounds for the new party if he becomes governor.

Mimiko is said to have also successfully planted his loyalist, Dr. Eddy Olafeso, as South West chairman of the PDP even as he has opened discussions with self-exiled former presidential aide, Kingsley Kuku. Governor Mimiko, it was gathered, has sent a delegation of state government officials to Kuku in the United States of America, where he is currently based, to firm up details of the governor’s overtures.

Details ares still sketchy as at the time of this report, but it was gathered that Kuku has reportedly insisted that he should be picked as Jegede’s governorship running mate to have his support.

Sunday Telegraph learnt that in the ensuing permutation, Kuku, of the Ijaw extraction, has promised to leverage on his links with his kinsmen, the largest ethnic group in the South South cutting across Edo, Delta, Bayelsa, Rivers and Akwa- Ibom, to mobilize for the envisioned party and make an Inroad into the troubled Niger Delta.

Kuku had declared his intention to be governor before fleeing the country, following manhunt for him my the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) over alleged financial Atiku, Mimikoimpropriety as head of the Niger Delta Presidential Amnesty Programme.

Atiku has maintained, on many occasions, that he remains a committed member of the APC, but reports have been rife since the beginning of the year that the former vice president has severally complained of being sidelined in the affairs of the party.

His subtle but controlled criticism of the present government has been noticed in the last few months just as he has secretly embarked on a nationwide consultation with his political associates with a view to redirecting his political future.

It will be recalled that Atiku drew the ire of the Presidency and leadership of APC as, aside decrying lack of focused leadership, he openly canvassed for the restructuring of the country, an idea President Muhammadu Buhari and his vice, Prof. Yemi Osinbajo, have discredited.

Although it could not be independently confirmed, Atiku was reportedly summoned and cautioned by the national leadership of the APC for his various utterances in the media.

He was said to have equally protested against the return of the erstwhile chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), Mallam Nuhu Ribadu, to the APC.

Atiku and Ribadu, both from Adamawa State, have had several running battles.

While Ribadu held sway at the EFCC under former president, Chief Olusegun Obasanjo, Atiku was dislodged from the then ruling party, the PDP, in the run up to the 2007 presidential election.

Reports have it that the former anti corruption czar, an elder brother of the president’s wife, Aisha Buhari, was encouraged to join the party by the First Lady and former president, Obasanjo, who is yet to mend fences with his estranged former deputy for over 10 years now.

Excerpted From New Telegraph

FG, Militants Finally Reach Agreement, See details by AngelPrisi(f) : 6:58 pm On Jul 31

The Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta (MEND) and the Federal Government currently engaged in a dialogue through the oil companies and security agencies have reached far-reaching compromises, including the release of former militant leader, Henry Okah, in prison in South Africa and Charles Okah, incarcerated in Nigeria.

They also agreed that ex-militant leader, Government Ekpemupolo , alias Tompolo, would not be harassed by government if he makes himself available as a delegate on MEND Aaron Team 2, while the leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), Nnamdi Kanu, would be released on condition that he renounces the agitation for “Biafra Republic.”

MEND in a statement by Jomo Gbomo, its spokesperson, Saturday, announced other breakthroughs in the discussions that will end the revolt in the South-South and South East regions .

However, it said the recalcitrant Niger Delta Avengers (NDA) still has opportunity to embrace peace failing which a combination of military forces and volunteers in the region, would smoke them out.

The statement read: “The Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta (MEND) is the only militant group from the Niger Delta region who are presently engaged in a dialogue with the Federal Government of Nigeria – through oil companies and security agencies -with a view to resolving the current Niger Delta crisis.”

“Thus far, the deliberations have been fruitful, various concessions and guarantees have already been secured. Some of which include, but are not limited to: Release of Henry Okah, Charles Okah and Obi Nwabueze; Review of the life sentence handed to Mr. Edmund Ebiware based on a proposal put forward by the Aaron Team representative for Abia and Imo states, Senator Adolphus Wabara.

“Also, conditional release of IPOB leader, Mr. Nnamdi Kanu and others if they renounce their agitation for a “Biafra Republic,” the group said.

Furthermore, MEND said they agreed: “That Mr. Government Ekpemupolo shall not be arrested, harassed and/or intimidated whenever he makes himself available as a delegate of the MEND Aaron Team.”

It added: “That international arbitrator and conflict negotiator, American Dr. Judith Asuni shall be accepted as the representative of the Niger Delta Avengers (NDA) on the MEND Aaron Team; that the criminal charges against Urhobo freedom fighter, Mr. Kelvin Prosper Oniarah shall be reviewed.

“That the life sentence which was handed to seven soldiers in 2008, who actively supported the Niger Delta struggle be reviewed under the Presidential Amnesty Programme. The affected persons are: Suleiman Alabi Akubo, Major. Mathias Peter, SGT, Alexander Davou, L.Cpl., Moses Nwaigwe, L.Cpl., Nnandi Anene, L.Cpl. Taatihi Emmanuel, L.Cpl and Caleb Bawa, PTE,” it said.

“However, one of the most immediate and urgent fallout of the ongoing dialogue is the imperative for the Federal Government and MEND to jointly and separately take proactive steps to rescue and secure the region. This is in the event that the recalcitrant Niger Delta Avengers (NDA) continuing on its senseless and politically-motivated path of attacks on the country’s oil assets,” it noted.

MEND asserted: “To this end, both parties agreed that the Special Forces of the Nigerian Army should commence the purely routine but strategic military exercise code-named “Operation Crocodile Tears”; while MEND would commence a meet-the Government-Actors-and-People tour of the Niger Delta region code-named “Operation Moses”.

Culled From Daily Independent

Breaking News: JAMB Officially Withdraws 2016 Admission List...Find Out Why by AngelPrisi(f) : 5:00 pm On Aug 01

The Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board (JAMB) has withdrawn the list of recommended candidates for admission earlier sent to the tertiary institutions.

In a statement issued on Sunday by Fabian Benjamin, spokesman of the Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board (JAMB), board has withdrawn the list of recommended candidates for admission earlier sent to the tertiary institutions.

The examination body explained that the decision was to ensure that the Senate of Universities perform their statutory responsibility of conducting the selection of candidates and refer it to JAMB for confirmation in line with the admission criteria of merit, catchment and educationally disadvantaged states as directed by the Minister of Education, Alhaji Adamu Adamu, at the policy committee meeting.

The statement read;

“This is to ensure that the University Senate perform its statutory responsibility of conducting the selection of candidates and refer it to JAMB for confirmation in line with the admission criteria of merit, catchment and educationally disadvantaged states as directed by the Hon Minister of Education at the policy committee meeting.

“The earlier list was sent to help fast track the process of admission so as to allow other tiers of institutions also conduct their admission.

“Candidates should not panic because this is part of the process of the 2016 admission exercise. JAMB regrets any inconvenience this decision would have caused the tertiary institutions.

“The board regrets any inconvenience it’s proactive step would have caused the tertiary institutions.”

Shocking Photos of How Anambra Meat Sellers Sell Poison to Unsuspecting Consumers by AngelPrisi(f) : 5:04 pm On Aug 01

Alarm has been raised by good Nigerians after shocking photos of how Anambra meat sellers use gutter, urine and dirty water to wash meat they sell to the public.

One of the meat sellers washing the meat in the dirty gutter water

A man has exposed the shocking way Anambra meat sellers use gutter and flood water to wash the meat before selling it to unsuspecting members of the public.

After seeing this, you might think twice before buying any meat again at the Kwata abbattoir in Anambra State.


Four Pretty Nigerian Sisters Marries on the Same Day (Photos) by AngelPrisi(f) : 5:14 pm On Aug 01

The four sisters who are all doctors

Reports making rounds online and social reveals that the four beautiful daughters of one Alhaji Bade, who are all medical doctors - Hauwa, Hajir, Fatima, and Sadiya - got married on the same day in Jigawa state.

The identities of the pretty sister's husbands were unknown as at the time of filing this report.

See more photos below;

How I Caught My Husband Having Wild S*x With My Chief Bridesmaid on Our Wedding Night by AngelPrisi(f) : 5:46 pm On Aug 01

A woman has shared a really stunning story of her husband's unbelievable cheating ways even on their wedding night.

File photo used only for illustative purpose

A woman has narrated how her new husband with whom she had just had a wedding, engaged in s*x with her trusted friend who happened to be her chief bridesmaid only some hours after their ceremony.

Below is what she shared:


It was my wedding day and we had ‘fulfilled all righteousness’ required of us by the church and the tradition. I had danced vigorously at the reception just so my flexible husband won’t outdo me. This got me too tired (I didn’t know why Anthony, my husband wasn’t tired) that when we finally got to our hotel room and all I wanted to do was just to shower, cuddle up a bit with my Anthony and then go to bed. My husband wanted otherwise.

He was bent on us (I, himself, Tolu, who is our chief bridesmaid and Osas, our groomsman) going out to have few drinks before we finally retire to our hotel room. The bar my husband wanted was not even close to our hotel. I decided to make him see reasons he should let us stay in our hotel room to celebrate the union, but he was adamant.

Osas left us in the hotel after receiving a call that required him to leave urgently. But Anthony was still bent on us going out for drinks. So, I decided to obey my husband. We went for the drinks. I don’t drink but Anthony and Tolu persuaded me to try my first bottle, the second and probably the sixth, yes, the sixth! All I knew after few bottles was that everything seemed like a dream around me.

I saw myself as the chief bridesmaid, not the bride anymore.

When I woke up in the morning, I knew everything was wrong. I was all alone in bed and my husband was nowhere to be found. I played back the turn of events of the previous night (the ones I could remember, at least) and my heart sank.

I jumped out of my bed to Tolu’s room which was just the next room to ours. In their drunken state, they had forgotten to bolt the door. I pushed the door and it opened. I found my newly wedded husband and Tolu furiously making love, They jumped as soon as they realized I was in the room. My head spun. Tolu ran out before I could get hold of her.

Then I found the note she left by the lamp stand. It revealed how she had been wondering how ‘it would feel’ to have s*x with a newly married man on his wedding night. So she had it all mapped up out. Tolu had been nursing the intention of sleeping with my husband. She also revealed how she got her chance when we got back to the hotel after having the drinks. She said she saw how I wanted to sleep but my husband wanted a piece of the pie even in his drunk state.

She decided to help us (my husband and I) by giving him what he wanted. But the only thing she hated was that my husband kept muttering my name while at it! This happened few weeks ago.

Tolu keeps evading my calls. My husband is also visibly sorry about the awry experience.

I am yet to forgive him because I believe he planned the event of that night well in advance. Otherwise, why did he insist we all go out? Why did he persuade me to drink.

I have moved out of our apartment and staying with a friend in an undisclosed area. I cannot imagine my best friend tasting my man on our first night of being husband and wife.

I need your advice before I do something crazy.

Please read this before you post another RIP on Facebook. by AngelPrisi(f) : 7:19 am On Aug 03

On June 9, 2012. At 8:20 a.m., my 36-year-old husband was pronounced dead at a hospital just outside Washington, D.C.

By 9:20 a.m., my cellphone would not stop ringing or text-alerting me long enough for me to make the necessary calls that I needed to make: people like immediate family, primary-care doctors to discuss death certificates and autopsies, funeral homes to discuss picking him up, and so on. Real things, important things, time-sensitive, urgent things.

At 9:47 a.m., while speaking to a police officer (because yes, when your spouse dies, you must be questioned by the police immediately), one call did make it through. I didn’t recognize the number. But in those moments, I knew I should break my normal rule and answer all calls. “He’s deadhuh Oh my God. Who’s with you? Are you OK? Why am I reading this on Facebook? Taya, what the heck is going on?”

Facebook? I was confused. I hadn’t been on Facebook since the day before, so I certainly hadn’t taken the time in the last 90 minutes to peek at the site.

“I’ll call you back”, I screamed and hung up. I called my best friend and asked her to search for anything someone might have written and to contact them immediately and demand they delete it. I still hadn’t spoken to his best friend, or his godsister, or our godchild’s parents, or a million other people! Why would someone post it to Facebook SO FAST?

While I can in no way speak for the entire planet, I certainly feel qualified to propose some suggestions — or, dare I say, rules — for social media grieving.

How many RIPs have you seen floating through your social media stream over the last month? Probably a few. Death is a fate that we will each meet at some point. The Information Age has changed the ways in which we live and communicate daily, yet there are still large voids in universally accepted norms.

This next statement is something that is impossible to understand unless you’ve been through it:

There is a hierarchy of grief.

Yes, a hierarchy. It’s something people either don’t understand or understand but don’t want to think or talk about — yet we must.

There is a hierarchy of grief.

Hierarchy is defined as:

a system or organization in which people or groups are ranked one above the other according to status or authority, and
an arrangement or classification of things according to relative importance or inclusiveness.
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What does this mean as it relates to grief? Let me explain. When someone dies  — whether suddenly or after a prolonged illness, via natural causes or an unnatural fate, a young person in their prime or an elderly person with more memories behind them than ahead — there is one universal truth : The ripples of people who are affected is vast and, at times, largely unknown to all other parties.

A death is always a gut punch with varying degrees of force and a reminder of our own mortality. Most people are moved to express their love for the deceased by showing their support to the family and friends left behind.

In the days before social media, these expressions came in the form of phone calls, voicemail messages, and floral deliveries.

If you were lucky enough to be in close proximity to the family of the newly deceased, there were visits that came wrapped with hugs and tears, and deliveries of food and beverages to feed all the weary souls.

Insert social media. All of those courtesies still occur, but there is a new layer of grief expression — the online tribute in the form of Facebook posts, Instagram photo collages, and short tweets.

What’s the problem with that? Shouldn’t people be allowed to express their love, care, concern, support, and prayers for the soul of the recently deceased and for their family?


And no.

Why? Because there are no established “rules,” and people have adopted their own. This isn’t breaking news, and you’re not trying to scoop TMZ. Listen, I know you’re hurt. Guess what? Me too. I know you’re shocked. Guess what? Me too. Your social media is an extension of who you are. I get it. You “need” to express your pain, acknowledge your relationship with the deceased, and pray for the family.



Please give us a minute.

We are shocked.

We are heartbroken.

Give the immediate family or circle a little time to handle the immediate and time-sensitive “business” related to death. In the minutes and early hours after someone passes away, social media is most likely the last thing on their minds. And even if it does cross their mind, my earlier statement comes into play here.

There is a hierarchy of grief.

Please pause and consider your role and relationship to the newly deceased. Remember, hierarchy refers to your status and your relative importance to the deceased. I caution you to wait and then wait a little longer before posting anything. This may seem trivial, silly, and not worth talking about, but I promise you it isn’t.

If the person is married, let the spouse post first.

If the person is “young” and single, let the partner, parents, or siblings post first.

If the person is “old” and single, let the children post first.

If you can’t identify the family/inner circle of the person, you probably shouldn’t be posting at all.

Do you get where I’m going with this?

In theory, we should never compare grief levels, cast the grief-stricken survivors into roles, or use words like status and importance. But maybe we need to at this moment (and for the next few weeks and months).

The “RIP” posts started hitting my timeline about an hour after my husband’s death, and I certainly didn’t start them. This created a sense of confusion, fear, anxiety, panic, dread, and shock for the people who knew me, too. What’s wrong? Who are we praying for? Did something happen? Did someone pass? Why are there RIPs on your wall and I can’t reach you? Call me please! What’s going on?

That’s a small sample of messages on my voicemail and text inbox. I had to take a minute in the midst of it all to ask a friend to post a status to my Facebook page on my behalf.

Your love and expressions of support are appreciated and needed, but they can also be ill-timed and create unintended additional stress.

The person is no less dead and your sympathy no less heartfelt if your post, photo, or tweet is delayed by a few hours. Honestly, the first couple of hours are shocking, and many things are a blur. Most bereaved people will be able to truly appreciate your love, concern, prayers, and gestures after the first 24 hours.

I’ve learned this from the inside — twice within the last four years. And I assure you that if we each adopted a little patience and restraint in this area, we would help those who are in the darkest hours of their lives by not adding an unnecessary layer of stress.

A few extra hours could make all the difference.

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From entry-level to senior management, most workers have something more they'd like to achieve in their professional lives. But advancing your career doesn't just mean getting a promotion or switching to another company. Every day, there are simple, little things you can do to improve your productivity, your job satisfaction and your overall standing with your colleagues. Here are eight habits you can start forming today to help your career.

Learn how to listen
There's a big difference between truly listening to someone and simply waiting to talk, said Dana Brownlee, founder of Professionalism Matters. Most people tend to do the latter when they're pretending to do the former, but if you make the effort to hear, process and respond thoughtfully, your colleagues will take notice.

Brownlee's advice: "Listen to others as if you'd be quizzed on what they were saying. Listening keenly not only allows you to extract better information, it makes the other person feel heard, which is huge in terms of building relationships. That type of skill, if nurtured and developed early, can be invaluable."

Double-check and confirm
One of the biggest causes of workplace conflict is unclear expectations, both on the part of managers and employees. If one person gives directions in a vague or confusing way, and/or the other person assumes his or her own interpretation is correct, neither party gets the results and validation it wants. Adam Robinson, co-founder and CEO of hiring tech company Hireology, said the best way to combat this is to consistently check in about projects to clarify what the other person expects from you (or what you need that person to do).

Robinson's advice: "Accountability and communication are key when it comes to improving your career. In any role, you should confirm the goal and requirements, manage expectations and keep people informed. This will help you manage to the result you're looking to achieve. By proactively keeping people up to speed, they'll be aware of what you're working on and see that you are invested in achieving the goal."

Say "thank you"
Gratitude is a very simple but often overlooked tool for building strong relationships, especially in the workplace. Everyone wants to feel appreciated, and making a regular habit of thanking others for their efforts can go a long way, said Deidre Paknad, CEO of collaboration software Workboard.

Paknad's advice: "Work is a team sport and there are no solo victories. While most of us expect recognition and gratitude from our boss, give as much recognition to others as you'd like to receive. Be the person who recognizes the wins and actions of others."

Seek out quiet
Today's workers are always "on." Even when they're not physically in the office, people are answering emails, taking work calls and completing tasks at all hours of the day and night. The constant influx of notifications and communication can make your mental space awfully noisy, which can really hurt your focus at work. That's why Melanie Wells, founder and clinical director of national psychotherapy franchise The Lifeologie Institute, recommends taking a few minutes every day to remove these distractions and reset your mind.

Wells' advice: "Implement a daily period of quiet, of meditation or reflection [to manage] anxiety and stress. Carve out a brief period of time when you can get rid of the static and clear out the mental clutter so that you can focus and get back in the game. [Spend] 10 minutes in a quiet place with no distractions. You'll feel refreshed and ready to put forth your best work and effort."

Stick to a schedule
Some people go through their work day as if they're treading water. They deal with issues as they arise because they haven't planned ahead, and they may feel like they're struggling just to keep up. Setting a specific schedule and blocking out time to deal with specific tasks such as answering emails — and really adhering to that schedule — can help you manage your day better, Dana Brownlee said.

Brownlee's advice: "Don't be reactive; be very intentional and proactive. Instead of grazing through emails all day long, identify specific times to check and process email. Turn off the chime that announces each incoming email. Focus on one thing at a time and avoid the minute-to-minute distraction of random emails."

Stick to a schedule
Some people go through their work day as if they're treading water. They deal with issues as they arise because they haven't planned ahead, and they may feel like they're struggling just to keep up. Setting a specific schedule and blocking out time to deal with specific tasks such as answering emails — and really adhering to that schedule — can help you manage your day better, Dana Brownlee said.

Brownlee's advice: "Don't be reactive; be very intentional and proactive. Instead of grazing through emails all day long, identify specific times to check and process email. Turn off the chime that announces each incoming email. Focus on one thing at a time and avoid the minute-to-minute distraction of random emails."

Embrace positivity
Who would you rather have on your team when a project is going poorly: Someone who tries to stay positive and get back on track, or a "Debbie Downer" who constantly laments the situation and blames others? Hireology's Robinson said that negativity is one of the worst habits that hold people back, in life and in their careers. Actively working against your inclination to complain when things get tough can really improve your team morale — and your standing within the organization.

Robinson's advice: "Nobody cares how busy you are, because everyone is busy. This shows a lack of awareness of other people, and ultimately doesn't look good [on you.] Having a positive attitude and not complaining shows that you're level-headed and do well under pressure."

Be honest with yourself
Taking stock of your strengths and weaknesses — and being realistic and honest with yourself about them — can help you to do your very best in your current and future roles. This is especially true of your weaknesses. Wells, of The Lifeologie Institute, noted that taking full inventory of what she's not good at has been much more important than listing what she is good at, because understanding your own skill gaps means you can seek out the right people to complement them.

Wells' advice: "The best thing you can do for your career is to understand your strengths and weaknesses and admit they're real. For example, if you're creative, but disorganized, you will need to find a way to compensate for the fact that organization does not come naturally to you. That may involve a number of different solutions, but the key is that you should never try to be something you're not. No one can fake it forever."

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