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Man Needs Advice After Falling In Love With A Prostitute (Snapshot) by teekay(f) : 7:43 am On Jul 24

What can you say about this guys, Can you fall in love with a prostitute?

My Ladies Please Come In, I Have Vital Info For You All by teekay(f) : 10:00 am On Jul 24

Good evening ladies, please i know whatever I'm about to type might not be news to
some of us (as we might have heard a similar story in the past)but please for the love
of God, let's be very careful. We need to be satisfied with whatever we have, little be it
or much.
I got to school this morning and i met one of my friends in a very gloomy mood, i had
to drag her out of the class and after so so much persuasion, she finally opened up to
me. I'll save you guys the bulk of the irrelevant parts.
She went to Lagos Island with her elder brother to get some stuffs, they finished up
late and on their way back home around 9pm, the car suddenly stopped on Third
mainland bridge, to cut the story short, they were stranded and decided to sleep inside
d car.
At around 12am, two Prado Jeeps parked and two hefty men came out dragging a
lady, according to my friend,the lady kept shouting and saying "leave me alone, this
wasn't our agreement, do you want to throw me into the sea"
The lady kept struggling until another man came out of the other jeep and beheaded
the girl and immediately sucked on the blood gushing out from her neck region before
asking his "boys" to throw her lifeless body into the sea and they drove off.
My friend is still visibly shaken from the experience and I'm sure that the family
members of that lady must have started to search for her . Please ladies, I'm not
referring to anyone as a "call girl" but let's all be careful.
Who knows if the man picked the lady from a club, or if they've been dating for a while
or something...Only God knows.
Please let's be careful and be contended with whatever little we have, not all that
glitters is Gold.
A word is enough for the wise. I wish everyone a stress free weekend.

Five Things You Need To Know About Love. by teekay(f) : 10:24 am On Jul 24

The issue of love is a touchy one.
We all have different ideas of what love is. In a place as diverse as Naija, love means
many different things to different people.
Just because we have opinions doesn’t make all of them right. Here are some
universal truths about love that every Nigerian should know:
1. Love ≠ Sex
In this part of the world, many people equate s*x with love. No matter how great you
are in bed, it doesn’t mean someone will stand by you or fall in love with you.
2. Love needs “Realness”
You can’t pretend forever. Who you really are will one day shine through. True love
understands that you’re not a perfect person. So, stop faking it. Stop acting like you are
somebody else
3. Domestic Abuse isn’t a part of Love ;(
Some people often mistake domestic abuse for love. It is not! A person who loves you
won’t raise their hands to you or hit you. Love isn’t the same as emotional or physical
abuse
4. Love is Not a Hustle
We have turned love into a hustling business in Naija. You’d see some women pursuing
men who are clearly taken. Or you’d see men who are in relationships going after other
women. If someone doesn’t make you happy, please leave the relationship.
5. Love has nothing to do with Money
This is for those guys who believe if they throw enough money at you, you will love
them. Let’s not forget those ladies who only go for rich men. We all love the finer
things in life. How much money a person has doesn’t influence the probability of you
falling in love with them.

[MEN] MUST READ: How to chat with a girl/woman and get her hooked by teekay(f) : 10:46 am On Jul 24

Is your chat boring and mundane?
(No woman is allowed to comment; if you do you might be verbally attacked so KEEP
OFF )
PLEASE STOP READING.
This is too long for you, it's not for everyone — it's only for those who want to improve
the way they chat with women. PLEASE STOP.
You can never regret the contents of this gibberish, but I'm happy most of you won't
read it. Let the knowledge be only for a few.
Psychology of a Woman with a Whatsapp or Any Chat Apps on Her Phone.
The reason why a girl chats dirty with one guy and chats clean with another guy is
caused by the guy.
Re-read that line again (slooowly and allooooow it to siiiiiiiiink in youuuuuuuur braiiiiiiin).
When a girl notices you see her as a good girl, she'll act as a good girl towards you,
either online or offline.
(If you belong here, you're in trouble. Talking about s*x with her will get her angry).
When a girl notices you see her as a bad girl she'll act as a naughty girl towards you,
be it online or offline.
(If you belong here, you're in a good shape. Talking about s*x with her will get her hot
and ho.rny).
So, men are the cause why women chat the way they chat with them online and
offline.
Any man who chats clean and nice with a woman is a boring chat(ter). PERIOD.
Any man who chats dirty and humorously with a woman is a fun chat(ter). PERIOD.
Assume every girl is a naughty girl and chat humorously naughty with them and you'll
be surprised. I promise.
If you've been chatting a boring chat changing to this style over night will be surprising
to her. Some girls will be shocked , while others will be wowed. Start slow and take
one step at a time for the boring chatters. If she's a new bae, then fire down. First
impression matters.
Are you tired of reading? I heard Nigerians don't like to read. If you're one of them,
then quit for your own good .
(C'ya head u wan finish everything - badt baddo baddest).
Listen guys, I'll post some of my chats with women and I'll explain how women select
who to chat with. Women don't ignore my messages, they anticipate my replies which I
never do and if I try to reply it'll be after some minutes, hours, a day or a month;
sometimes a year. The lucky ones, I reply them almost immediately; but only if I'm
free.
The games they play on men need to be reversed. When you have a lot of women to
chat with and they enjoy your conversation you won't be fixated on a girl's reply. You're
too busy to even remember she exist.
Solution to these problems
There are only 3 good girls/women left in this world and they are your mother, your
blood sisters and Keyshia Cole.
Despite how Churchistic a girl is, remember she's a naughty girl. Don't EVER be
deceived. The only difference is, she's more decent and more reserved, but her heart/
mind is naughty; all she needs is a good-bad guy who'll trigger her instinct in secret —
as long as nobody knows about it. Your phone and fingers can do the magic.
Starting from today see every girl as a naughty girl waiting for a naughty boy to
activate her naughtiness.
When you have these mindsets women will always reply your messages.
Note: You'll come in contact with girls that don't believe this sh!t, but deep down this
sh!t is real. Her inhibition is just too much and can be annihilated by a real man.
Boring Chat VS Interesting Chat
The rule here is use sexual+misinterpretation+humors [S+M+H]. Look for a key word in
her message or speech to trigger the sexual humor, then turn it upside down. Make no
sense out of it, but it'll make sense to her. Men are from Mars and women are
from...?
Remember Rule 1. Never give a woman a direct answer, except it's a capital NO .
(These replies will sound very childish to some men/women. It works in practical, but
looks stupid when teaching them. Whatever works, works. It doesn't matter how it
sounds).
Let's Get Started
She : Hi
You : Hi or Hello or Hey. [boring]
You : Sorry, do you mean Hi-tension pole? No I don't sell it any longer. [fun] or
You : No, I'm not Hi(gh), I don't drink. [fun] ) (it doesn't matter if you drink or not).
She : Where are you (now)?
You : I'm in the house or... [boring]
You : I'm in Boko Haram's camp; we're doing a training there. Are you coming? [fun]
She : How was your day?
You : Fine. [boring]
You : Day break? C'mon can't do it till day break na! U want make my strength finish?
[fun] or
You : My day has broken. Please help me fix it. Take crew driver. [fun]
You : (My day don break — abeg come patch am for me). [fun]
She : How was your night?
You : Fine or Cool or Wonderful etc. [boring]
You : I'm not wearing any 'night gown.' I'm nakèd. You too like night, u be witch? [fun]
You : Night? My night is wearing a gown [fun].
You : Knight? No nightmare. [fun]
She : What are you doing?
You : I'm sleeping, eating etc. [boring]
You : I'm doing a goat. [fun]
You : I'm doing drugs. [fun]
You : I'm doing it from behind. [fun]
You : I'm doing exactly what I did by this time last week. [fun] Do you remember?
She : What do you do for a living?
You : I'm into business or... [boring]
You : I do hiring and firing squad, and you? [fun]
You : I do Boko Haram's recruitment; I know you want to join. [fun]
You : I do dogs, I do pvssy (I mean that small animal), but most times it depends on
my mood. [fun]
She : How's your family?
You : Fine. [boring]
You : Amily? No, she's not my house help. [fun]
She : Where have you been?
You : Sorry, I have not been around. [boring]
You : I've been to h3ll and back. [fun]
You : Bean? No, I don't like beans gimme rice. [fun]
She : What's your name?
You : My name is iLegend. [boring]
You : I lost my name during Nigerian/Biafran war. I'll soon get a new name. What's
yours? [fun]
She : Are you sleeping?
You : No, I'm not. [boring]
You : No, I'm snoring. [fun]
You : No, I'm dreaming. [fun]
You : No, I'm dancing shoki wanna join? [fun]
Note: After these childish chat techniques, you should chat some boring chats (the
matured way), then bring in the childish chat again, especially when she's asking you a
question you don't want to answer.
During bed time, ask her if she's alone? If yes, ask: Bae, I khow the color of the pant
you're wearing, but I won't tell you before you think I'm a juju priest. She'll insist you tell
her, then you say, naughty girl, "you're not wearing any panties." Then, change the topic
or ask: Bae, 'morrow bring all your dirty undies I'll wash them for you; though not free. I
just bought a new washing machine. Oh! Wait: which is your favorite color? Don't tell
me it pink o!? Else I'll spank ya ass.
Send all the questions woman ask you while chatting or during oral conversation and I'll
show you how to reply them in a fun way. You already know the boring ways.
The End

Why Men Lose Interest. (Be Irresistible) by teekay(f) : 5:03 am On Jul 25

It's a painful experience to be deeply
connected with a man, only to find him
pulling away and losing interest.
Have you ever been with a man who
seemed to really like you, only to begin
distancing himself and saying he really
wasn’t ready for a commitment?
Why is it that he ends up marrying the
next woman he dates? Was he lying
when he said he wasn't ready for a
commitment?
The answer comes down to deep emotional attraction .
In all likelihood, he was not lying when he said he wasn't ready for a commitment. In
fact, unlike women, a man’s default mode is that he is not ready for (or even looking
for) a commitment.
It takes a special kind of deep emotional attraction for a man to feel compelled to
keep a woman in his life with a shared promise of committed intentions for the
future.
What creates that intense emotional
bond for men?
I can tell you one thing for certain. Men
experience relationships for what they
are here and now, in the present
moment.
This is a stereotype, but because there
is so much truth in it you would be
foolish to ignore its implications for your
relationship.
Research with men and women in the early stages of dating relationships has shown
that women typically consider themselves to be "in a relationship" by the time the
third date rolls around.
In contrast, men do not consider themselves to be “in a relationship” until several
months of exclusive dating have occurred.
Even when he's exclusively dating one woman, a man will be surprised when his
counterpart suggests the relationship is exclusive. Why is that?
Again, it comes back to the fact that men tend to spend less time plotting and
planning the course of their lives in terms of relationships. Men do not define their
lives (as much) by where things seem to be going in a relationship.
For your man to reach a point where he desires a committed relationship, something
very significant must occur first.
He must experience an intense emotional attraction that causes him to feel less
alive when he is not in your presence.

10 Things To Talk About Before Getting Married by teekay(f) : 5:20 am On Jul 25

The epidemic of extravagant weddings is seeping into our culture in an unmistakable
way. Turn on the TV at any given time and you will find a plethora of shows centered
on the concept of achieving the so-called perfect wedding.
The wedding planning process includes finding the perfect dress, landing the perfect
reception hall, making sure you’ve got the right flowers, food, cake, music, wedding
party, DJ, photographer, centerpieces, invitations, ceremony, rings, shoes and more.
While there is no doubt that there is value in celebrating such a sacred day, is it
possible that in our celebration- sometimes we miss the focus?
When it comes to wedding planning, there is a tendency to focus on the minor
details while neglecting the main point; planning the wedding, while neglecting to
plan the marriage .
Far beyond planning the particulars of a wedding day, the time of engagement is a
really sacred time. It’s a chance to get to the bottom of who you are and reflect on the
person you want to become. It’s an opportunity to connect with and continue getting to
know the heart of the precious partner God has placed in your life.
It’s a time to begin working, preparing and planning for the marriage you hope to
build.

As you reflect on some of the most important aspects of planning a marriage, here are
some must-have conversations before you walk down the aisle:
1. Past: When it comes to planning for a marriage it’s crucial to talk about your past,
because the past has a role in shaping the present. Whether your past is tainted with
pain, or filled with hope- you need to get real with where you come from. Past
relationships, family history, and significant experiences (both positive and negative) that
have shaped you are just some of the things that need to be discussed as you look
back- so that you can join together in moving forward.
2. Family: What role will your family play in your life once you are married? How will
visits, holidays, and special occasions impact your relationship with one another? Will
you start your own traditions, or continue those of your family of origin? What role will
our family have when it comes to our life and decision making? Combining two people
from two separate families into one is something that many people take lightly. But it’s
a topic that can cause much strain and stress if not tackled in part before you say I do.
3. Sex: Our views of s*x and sexuality are shaped long before we commit to marriage.
It’s crucial to get comfortable with this topic of conversation, because it’s one that you’ll
carry on for the rest of your married life. What are your views of sex, and how have
they been shaped? What is your past sexual history and how might that impact your
relationship? What expectations do you have and are you on the same page?
Understanding your sexual views and knowing your partner’s is a valuable part of
preparing for intimacy.
4. Secrets: I get a lot of questions from people wondering when is the right time to
share “secrets”- the parts of your life that you rarely share with others. There is no
better time to share these intimate things than now, as you look ahead at marriage.
From family secrets, to personal choices, from health problems to mental health
concerns, this is the time to share things big and small, paving the way for honesty
and openness as the foundation of your relationship.
5. Expectations : Because expectations are such a deep-seated part of who we are, we
don’t often think about them. But talking about these things gives us a chance to bring
them to the surface in a constructive way. What are your views on work, family, and
marriage roles? How will you accomplish the cooking, the cleaning and the chores?
This is just skimming the surface of the things we may expect going into marriage, and
it’s an important conversation to have.
6. Money: It’s amazing how such a seemingly benign topic before marriage, can
become such a trigger after. Too many couples get caught in the trap of financial
stress and struggles because they didn’t take the time to discuss the finances How do
you feel about combining money? What are your spending habits? Do you have any
debt and how are you going to pay it off? What are your views on saving, tithing, and
giving? Getting on the same page when it comes to money will save you so much
strain as you soon become one.
7. Faith : When it comes to genuine faith, it’s a part of you that should be oozing out of
your life long before marriage. But just as important as it is to retain our individual
relationship with God, it’s important to connect in our faith experiences as we look
toward marriage. Discussions about prayer life, reading God’s word, spiritual roles,
theological beliefs, and denominational preferences are all things that need to be
considered and discussed as you move forward.
8. Children: Above and beyond dreaming about baby names, there is so much more to
the topic of family planning before marriage. How many children do you hope to have?
What happens if you aren’t able to get pregnant? How were you parented, and what are
your personal views on parenting? Who will take care of the children, and what are your
views on day-care, schooling, and the like. There are many important aspects to this
topic that would be beneficial to take the time to discuss and work through.
9. Boundaries: Essentially, boundaries are your views on what is okay and what is not
okay when it comes to your relationship and marriage. What do boundaries look like
with friends of the opposite sex, past boyfriends/girlfriends, and even family members.
How will we protect our time, guard our emotions, and prevent our bodies from negative
interactions with others?
10. Struggles: One thing I know about marriage, is that it magnifies everything. Your
strengths…and your weaknesses. Before you enter the pressure-cooker of marriage, you
need to get real with your bad-habits and hang-ups here and now. Do you have a
tendency to express anger through rage? Do you struggle with any addictive behaviors?
Are there any areas in your life that you need to expose and address before you move
forward toward marriage? Take the time to talk frankly and honestly about your
struggles, and make the time to work toward hope and healing.
The season before marriage is a rich and joyous time in a couple’s life . Don’t allow
the pressure of creating the “perfect wedding” to keep you from focusing on what really
matters. Plan your wedding, but most importantly, plan your marriage- because a
healthy marriage is something worth truly celebrating.

5 reasons why a wife would want to kill her husband by teekay(f) : 12:37 pm On Jul 27

It was reported today that a housewife in Delta is to be sentenced to death for stabbing and setting her husband on fire. While we do not know about this woman or her relationship with her husband, here are a few reasons why a wife might intentionally kill her husband although we don’t subscribe to murder as a solution to any problem – marital or otherwise:

1. He is violent towards her
Battered woman syndrome (BWS) is a mental disorder that develops in victims of domestic violence as a result of serious, long-term abuse. In short, the wife is so beaten and bullied by her husband that one day she reaches her breaking point and snaps, and acts on her emotions. These emotions could cause her to stab, wound or kill her spouse. Abroad, it is a defence called the battered spouse defense.

2. He is a cheater
It’s normal to see most women as calm creatures who are untiring, forgiving and generally warm. But with every rule comes the exception. While society is prepping most women to be forgiving and understanding wives, we have the women who will not take any nonsense from their husbands and have a specific hatred for cheating. If she does her part as a good wife but her husband cannot keep it in his pants, she will speed up the ‘till death do us apart’ aspect just to be rid of him.

3. Inheritance/Money
If your life insurance is just the right amount or you’ve come into a lot of money during the marriage, the money may become more appealing to your wife than your life. Plus, if you guys are not getting along or she has no fond memories of you, even more reason for her to kill you. You may give her a fair share of what you have but she may think why settle for half when I can have it all? She will start looking for the perfect ‘accident’ which will befall you and lead to her gaining all your money and property.

4. He molests/harms their child
The bond between a mother and her child is one that no man can ever understand. It is a bond secured from the conception, to the pregnancy and all down to the bitter-sweet gruelling hours in labour spent pushing out the baby. Some mothers will say it’s because of the beauty of life, others will say it’s because of responsibility but whatever it is, most mothers will fight to the death for their children. So, if the woman’s husband was to harm the child or sexually abuse the child, a woman will switch from wife to mother real quick and kill her husband.

5. Wickedness
Sometimes, it may not even be the man’s fault. He may have been a good father, great husband and all that but the woman just wants to end his life. Maybe she is tired of being his wife, maybe she is bored or maybe she wants to see how to get away with murder. Wickedness is a valid reason for killing your husband and those wicked women are termed witches whether or not they practice juju.

Re: My Ladies Please Come In, I Have Vital Info For You All by teekay(f) : 1:00 pm On Jul 27

you are welcome ladies

How To Control Your Sexual Urges by teekay(f) : 1:26 pm On Jul 27

QUESTION
How do you manage your s*x drive or your desire to have s*x without masturbating? Masturbation has been presented to me as my only option and I’m wondering, is there any other way? How can I manage my desires in a healthy way?

TEAM’S ANSWER
First, we’d like to say bravo for asking such a bold question. There are many people walking around with this same mindset, and you are not alone. The fact you are even inquiring shows you desire to do things right so our hat is off to you!
I want to bring some freedom and let you know that managing your s*x drive is absolutely possible and masturbating is not your only option. In fact it’s probably one of the worst “options” out there. We know that fear isn’t a healthy motivator, so we won’t focus long on this point. But it is worth mentioning the “cons” to masturbation, particularly if you’ve only heard masturbation promoted as the only (normal and healthy) option for controlling your s*x drive.
Let me start here: I have not met anyone who feels victorious after they have masturbated. Many say they feel ashamed, empty, and lonely when it’s all over. Some may say, “It’s not a big deal,” but habitually masturbating certainly hasn’t led them into greater freedom. (And isn’t that what we’re all looking for — freedom, joy, hope, and, well, abundant life?) Many find that the more they do it, the more heightened their s*x drive becomes. This makes sense because
when you feed your appetite, it grows.
If you’re trying to calm your s*x drive down by masturbating, you’re really not helping yourself. Here’s the deal — a couple things happen when you are aroused and/or climax: your body gets flooded with hormones that cause an intense rush of pleasure (endorphins) as well as bond us to the activity, material, faces, fantasies, etc., that we expose ourselves to while masturbating (oxytocin, vasopressin). The combination of these hormones cause us to feel attached to the experience and drive us to repeat the activity—over and over and over—again. That’s the last thing you want if you’re trying to calm down and manage your s*x drive.
Interestingly, we seem to think that the best way to feel fulfilled sexually is to get as much as we can without going “all the way”. Unfortunately, this leaves us feeling frustrated and empty. Why? Because God created us in such a way that our bodies are programmed to “finish what we start” sexually. Part of this is a
relational finish , where we are able to experience oneness with our spouse.
Without the relationship that remains after the orgasm fades, we feel like we’re missing something. It didn’t satisfy the way we thought it would, and we’re left with the same desires we started with. Why doesn’t masturbation satisfy these “sexual” desires?
Oftentimes, it’s because our sexual desires have less to do with s*x and more to do with our physical, emotional, spiritual or relational health.
Let’s get back to the point at hand: If managing your s*x drive feels like an never ending battle, there’s probably something out of balance in your life. It could be spiritual, emotional, physical, or relational. How can you correct this?

1. Learn and practice self-awareness.
Self-awareness is knowing yourself: what you like, what you don’t like, how you feel, what you’re good at, what you’re not good at, and how you affect those around you. Why is this important? Because many of us act out sexually and we don’t know why.
We, as humans, hate pain. We’ll do anything to avoid it. When we have (basically) any uncomfortable feeling, we begin to seek out comfort. This is in our design—we were made with the capacity to solve our problems, to seek our answers and find what we need. This comfort may come in the form of healthy relationships, it may come as addictions to food, drugs, T.V., sex, masturbation, etc. Is there anything wrong with seeking comfort? Absolutely not. But we must find permanent solutions to our repetitive problems, be it a lack of intimacy, too much stress, or our inability to process pain.

2. Practice putting words to your feelings and experiences.
Am I hurting? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Disappointed? Insecure? Vulnerable? Hungry? When we are able to name our feeling, we are more able to name our need. And when we can name our need, we can fill it in an appropriate way.
When we are unable to put words to our feelings and experiences, we are unable to meet the need that lies beneath the feeling.

3. Learn and practice self-control.
I probably don’t need to tell you this, but if you are a believer and have chosen to live a life set apart and unto the Lord, then scripture is pretty clear that God wants you to be able to manage YOU and not be mastered by anything. This includes any and all addictions – masturbation, food, shopping, caffeine, gambling — you get the picture. You can read more about this in I Thessalonians 4:3-7.
Consider this: momentary pain is worth long-term gain.
Our culture today is ALL about instant gratification. Delaying gratification (disciplining ourselves) is not a popular idea. We all want to be thin, but don’t want to exercise. We all want to have money, but don’t learn to save. We want to have amazing relationships, but don’t practice the self-control it takes to love, honor, and cherish our loved ones. Simply put, we have to learn to say NO to ourselves sometimes if we are going to reap the benefits of a healthy life later on.
Will it be hard? Probably, at least at the start. Remember, if this has been your pattern, you need to break it by abstaining. This means telling yourself no when you want to masturbate, especially if you are used to telling yourself yes, and your body gets what it wants. But, if you persevere, eventually, it will lose much of its powerful pull. The more you tell yourself no, the easier it will become and the cycle will be broken.

4. Be aware of your needs.
There are basic relational needs all of us have such as connection, intimacy, being known, etc., and oftentimes masturbation can act as a comfort or quick fix to us when any one, some, or all of these needs go unmet.
Masturbation is often an intimacy issue. It is crucial, for women, to feel known and to feel valued; without these, many women use masturbation as a way to feel loved, wanted, sexy, and seen, if only for a moment. Men may often feel the desire to masturbate when they have felt powerless, or disrespected . But it all comes down to the quality of their relationships and how they feel about themselves in them. Assess your relationships and make sure you have people in your life that know you and feel known by you. Relationships should give us life and bring us strength.
Thriving in relationship will keep you alive as a man and a woman and promote health and happiness. Having enough healthy emotional connection with those around you will help bring your s*x drive under submission. If you get what you truly need, you won’t need to use masturbation to get a “quick fix” instead.

5. Be aware of what is stimulating your senses.
Let’s break this down: Being aware of what triggers your s*x drive or stimulates you is important. What are you watching (movies, TV shows, commercials, Facebook/IM, blogs, etc.)? What are you listening to (music, radio, talk shows, podcasts, etc.)? What types of people do you surround yourself with and what things do you discuss? Are these people life giving? Are they cheering you on and encouraging you to go after your goals and dreams? Do you talk about edifying things or things that take you down a dark road? With sexual perversity all around us it can be quite easy to be sexually stimulated, so just be aware of what you are feeding your body, soul, and spirit.

6. Invite God in.
You may have already done this, but invite God fully into your process. Try not to get into the habit of just hoping He’ll answer your unspoken questions or requests. Ask Him. Cry. Get angry if you need to. God is not afraid of your emotions, your disappointments, your fears or your shortcomings. Let Him into it all.
When we give God access to the center of our behavior, He is ready and available to provide lasting change. Then discover how you can partner with Him to stay free. This might involve having a written plan for how to manage the feelings that precede your desire to masturbate. The Holy Spirit is able to guide you into truth and can bring you the strength, partnered with the tools, to navigate your God-given s*x drive. God will never give you something you’re not able to manage.

7. Invite others in and say no to shame.
We are huge advocates of doing life in community. So we encourage you to ask for help and process what you are going through with older, wiser, loving leaders, pastors, parents, etc. They have walked this road before and remember, there is no shame or embarrassment in inviting others in and asking for help. In doing so, you may accidentally find the intimacy, connection, and comfort that you need in order manage your s*x drive well.

8. Change brings change.
Also, never underestimate the art of distraction.
If you’re breaking out of a pattern of giving in to your s*x drive, you’ve got to start doing something differently. For example, instead of staying in bed, get up, read a book, or play a game. Stop watching your “normal shows” or going to your normal after-hours spot if it sets you up for failure. This is part of practicing self-control and self-awareness. In a moment of weakness, you need to retrain your brain and body; don’t give in. Get up. Find another activity. Distract yourself. Stop isolating yourself. Spend more time with others. Make a change, and your change will come.

In conclusion, masturbation is not your only option.
Your s*x drive doesn’t have to feel out of control. You can manage it by growing as a whole person, learning to get your needs met, and staying in relationship. You’ve just got to get a hold of the vision for why you would pass up on instant gratification, and push through pain: what do you, personally, have to gain? This is a question that you need to answer, genuinely, in your own heart.
Powerful people can tell themselves what to do. If you worked through all this stuff and you are whole, body, soul, and spirit, it may simply boil down to the fact that you want to have sex. You may have to practice saying no to yourself, at least for a time. There is nothing unhealthy about abstaining from s*x or masturbation, and in fact, it may grow in you all of the character qualities that will lead you to healthy, fulfilling relationships, including marriage and a great s*x life.

Think of it like this: you can’t have every sweet thing that you see or you’ll be at risk for becoming diabetic. You can’t have s*x every time you are turned on.
You’re learning how to manage your s*x drive now so later you’ll know how to point that desire toward one person – your spouse – and he or she will be ever so grateful you took care of this now, and not five (or fifty) years into your marriage.

Plans Of Visiting A Strip Club? Here are Top 7 Strip Clubs in Lagos, Nigeria. by teekay(f) : 12:06 pm On Jul 29

Strip clubs are beginning to take over some major commercial areas of the Lagos mainland.For a while there was a ban on strip clubs, but that era seem passed, as they have springed up at an alarming rate.
Strip clubs have taken over Lagos as one of the most thriving businesses. An investigator has taken a tour around the Lagos mainland and here are the top 7 strip clubs where the business of strip dancing is selling even more than crude oil.

Club Unique
Club Unique or Unique gentlemens’ club, has its girls taking rounds to entertain the largely male audience with their erotic dance steps. Men are entertained by young ladies who easily climb the silvery pole seductively. The make sure inner thighs and sensuous cleavages. Located on Ogundana Street, off Allen Avenue, Ikeja, Lagos, Club Unique has even gone a step further by publishing a magazine called ‘Unique Babes’, in which the female dancers’ lewd photographs are lavishly displayed. Like in most nude clubs, the rules are unwritten.
Lap dance patrons tip the dancers with loads of naira notes, the bearest minimum being N1,000. When a lap dancer is ‘working’ on a client, male or female, she or he is expected to reach deep into his or her purse and stuff money in the girl’s bra and pant.
The VIP section of the club can only be accessed with a payment of N10,000, payable to the club as rent and another N5,000 or N10,000 to the girl for her services. There is a fee of N2,000 to be paid at the gate on week days, while as much as between N4,000 and N4,500 is paid on weekends, same applies for holidays.
The drinks can be quite expensive, soft drinks and malt will go for as high as N800, while the average bear would go for between N1,000 and N2,500 . Wines and spirits are in a class of their own, ranging from N10,000 to N30,000 depending on the brand.

Fantasy Villa
Fantasy world has a very wide variety of girls, says our underground reporter. The same rules seem to apply, the lounge serves as a diner and doubles as a lodge with strippers for adult entertainment.
Located at 23, Akin Osiyemi street in Ikeja, the number of revelers that flock to get a fill of their fantasy can be really alarming, but somehow Fantasy villa tends to house the numbers that turn out most from Friday to Sunday.
Gate fees apply sometimes dependent on the period and events that are to hold. The club house has its unique pole features that officials say are about the best in the clountry.
Our underground report got through to the manager and he was quoted to have said: ” The plan of setting up Fantasy Villa is to satisfy the sexual desires of all classes in Lagos.” Adding that “Lagos can be a very stressful place and the girls provide relieve and ease to the stress of hundreds within the Lagos metropolis.”
“They are like some nurses you know?” the manager who pleaded anonimity stressed.

Teazers Cabaret
Teazers Cabaret is one big spot for strippers says our correspondent. The essence of setting up Teazers Cabaret is to attract and provide pleasure mostly for the crème-de-la-crème. The club was formerly known as Cassbah, its located not too far from Ocean Blue. On a visit, our investigator said he was greeted by female ushers clad in t-shirts and hot pants as well as daunting and well-dressed bouncers who collect a gate fee of N1,000.
Many patrons can be found along corridors and balconies drinking and socializing. The furnitures are arranged in a sitting room pattern, one is more likely to see well suited gentlemen and other more formally-dressed crowd.
Located on 27, Opebi Allen Lagos, the music was much mellower than other clubs, the show arena proper serves a dual purpose as dance floor and performance spot for the girls.
One is likely to believe its just another exquisite Lagos night club, but the classy poles which are situated on the either extreme of the room.

Wall Street Pub
Wall street pub has made a big statement in the strip business, located at 70B, Allen Avenue, Ikeja, Lagos. Though being the smallest club in Ikeja, barely housing 50 clients at the same time, still what it lacks in size, it makes up in services. Reports by our undercover reporter reveals that it is the only club in that operates during work hours, although customers get all the services without the strip show, as that they say is best reserved for the night. Rumour has it that sometimes the dancers, when given enough tips, go as crazy as giving oral s*x with guests.
A guest who interracted with our correspondent, said the girls here have been noted on a few occasions to exhibit dauntless abilities towards clients as they throw themselves at men with ease, allowing free fondling which in most strip bars run contrary to rules.

To enter the Wall street gate, a fee of N2000 is charged on normal week days, while on weekends and public holidays, gate fee sky rockets as much as N3000.
A lap dance price starts at N1,000 for lap dances which lasts not more than five to ten minutes.
The VIP section of the Wall Street Bar’s cost N4,000 to N5000, where some patrons say the girls are more generous, some willing to go the whole nine yards.
It is rumoured that the girls have rooms in the club, clients can have s*x with any girl of their choice. One regular patron told our correspondent that this service, costs as much as N12,000 which will serve as pay for rent and services rendered by the girl.

Ocean Blue
Now known as Solid Gold, is located on Opebi Road, Ikeja, Lagos, very close to Tastee Fried Chicken. It happened to be one of the clubs affected during the raid by the Lagos State Government Task Force on strip bar operators.
Staking a huge claim as one of Lagos’ pioneer strip clubs, Ocean Blue gives no indication that strip activities go on within when seen from the outside. Ordinary week days at Ocean Blue attracts a gate fee of N2,000, a fee which does not in any way cover for a lap dance.
Like most of the clubs in Ikeja, getting a lap dance attracts a cahrge of N1,000 per dance, except where a client decides to be generous to the dancer for a job well done.
To access the VIP room, N6,000 is minimum, our investigator says what goes on in there is too graphic to be explained.

Millenium Koko
Millenium Koko is situated on Abdullahi Street, off Oke-Ira, Ogba, Lagos. A source close to the club revealed that the strip dance moves are on an international rating, as the dance routines are being supervised by one Tina Ighodalo.
This strip club parades the largest number of strippers, drawn from renowned university campuses in town, combining the conventional nightclubbing withn stripping which a lot of their clientel relish.
Millenium Koko boasts of over 20 suites for customers who wish to stay over after the strip dancers must have finished very late in the night or in the wee hours of the morning. Millennium Koko also has its VIP with clients paying between N5,000 to N10,000 for dances which some say are totally out of this world.

The Cave
This strip club is about the biggest name in the industry at the moment. Strategically situated along Joel Ogunnaike Street, in Ikeja GRA, Lagos, a few meters from the famed Lagos Country Club.
According to our underground investigator, the Cave is described as an upscale and urbane strippers hangout. In a style of its own, the club attracts mainly the upper class, who burn too money just to get a peep of the class of girls paraded by the club.
One is likely to meet a regular celebrity at The Cave. According to our source, entrance into the club cost no fee, but your free ride will get you only as far as the open bar, where you can have some drinks

However, to access the main cave, which is the inner ‘dome shaped’ hall, where the strip events take place, one is expected to pay at least N5,000, as gate fee. A fee that does not cover the cost of drinks to be consumed and the lap dances availed.

At The Cave, lap dances of about 10 minutes, ranges between N3000 and N5000, all dependent on the girl’s of choice. Meanwhile, the VIP section costs between N20,000 to N30,000; covering the rent of the section and the lady’s fee.
Like most big clubs around the world, The Cave has erotic dancers that take turns on the poles completely nude, further attempts beyond a dance attracts an extra fee, of course asking price begins at N1000.

Strip clubs are beginning to multiply in Lagos, following a revocation of the law by the Lagos state government which initially did not allow the business to operate.
Ikeja tends to be where most of the strip clubs are located, with Allen avenue close by, the area is fast becoming the red light capital of not just Lagos alone, but indeed Nigeria as a whole

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